I would like to say something
about spiritual maturity. See, you people have been doing
satsang since so many years. So, physical maturity – yes, You feel now you are mature enough
to get married, have kids, etc. But I am talking about
spiritual maturity. There is a special mantra for
spiritual maturity. ‘Don’t see the impure layers of others.
See the core.’ You understand? There are impure layers, ‘He is very angry right now, or dull, or very
egoistic, careless, etc.’ That is all you see. All these are impure layers.
But the core, your essence, is pure. You are as pure as I am. Which is the same as Lord
Mahavira’s Pure Nature. I am talking about the Soul.
You are just as pure. This is a wonderful spiritual practice.
It will make you spiritually mature. Just see everyone’s core
and not the impure layers. So easy to grasp
but so difficult to… Just look around.
Do you see the core or impure layers? Either you will see someone’s
actions, or his moods or his body. Or that he has not combed his hair
properly, or not trimmed his beard well. From the ultra-superficial to the
behaviour or the moods level. But you can’t see the core. The Realised One, is that Enlightened
person who sees the core. He can see the impure layers
but He can see the core too. Therefore, His feelings
don’t fluctuate. They remain the same at all times
which is called equanimity. Okay, if you find this difficult,
I can give you another option. See the other person as if
you are seeing that person for the first time. You know what happens?
Incidents occur constantly. Whether an incident occurs or not, something
is constantly running through your mind. And all that, you hold on to,
you don’t let it go. So what happens?
Two ‘R’s happen. You go on revisiting
again and again. Has it ever happened that all your friends
went out and only you were not called? Has that ever happened? If you say, ‘No, that
has never happened,’ Then you don’t know that they
have gone leaving you behind. That’s all it means. When we were little kids, our only hobby
was to make groups and single someone out. And if you could do that successfully
you would feel, ‘We are powerful.’ Now you are realising that
was a weak gesture. Right? Has something like this happened?
Then try to recollect that incident, Where people spoke
so sweetly to your face, But you couldn’t tell what was
cooking behind your back. So, they didn’t call you, for whatever reason.
Okay, what they did was wrong. But your mind revisits this incident;
how many times? Minimum 50 times. How many times were you not invited?
(Once) And how many times did you revisit it?
(50) See, you go on revisiting your past. So even if everything is going well now,
nothing bad has happened, Yet, you will continue to
produce sorrow. Your manufacturing plant is
functioning very well, Manufacturing what?
Sorrow. You got it? It’s not only that you are revisiting the past,
but, it is always ringing in your head. Remember the 2 ‘R’s. Don’t ‘Revisit’ and it
should not be ‘Ringing’ in your head. As soon as this happens, realise
‘Oh, I am getting weaker.’ I have to be?
Powerful! So, you need to erase a lot of past. Do you realise you have to… Your sharp memory is the
cause of your misery. If you want to progress on the spiritual path,
you have to learn to erase the past. Every day, 24 hours of past is added to
your life. So you have to keep on erasing. So, Jainism has a beautiful ritual
of pratikraman (Processing the past). Every day do pratikraman
and erase the past. We say, ‘Michhami Dukkadam’ in
Paryushan. What does it mean? If you ask someone, they will say,
“We ask for…(Forgiveness).” Wrong.
Forgetting that incident. You ask for forgiveness and 2 days later,
again you revisit the whole incident. And then again it is ringing in your head.
See, what have you done. But if you erase it – Michhami Dukkadam.
Michhami Dukkadam is in Prakrit, In Sanskrit it is – Mithyame Dushkrutam. Meaning, ‘Whatever wrong
I have done, may it be nullified.’ But it is not only forgiving,
it is forgetting. So important. Years ago, when we travelled by train,
there would be a metal plate by the bathroom, Which said, ‘Travel light.’ There were many instructions;
of them, one was travel (Light). Yes. If you want to go ahead on the
spiritual path, you have to travel light. We carry so much emotional luggage, Our head is heavy even when
we wake up in the morning! Travel light. I am not saying this only with
respect to objects. Travel light. You are so fresh in the morning. When you look at the sun, nothing is coming
in your mind, because there is no luggage. Nothing comes in between
while drinking tea or coffee. Because everything of yesterday
was erased at night. Before you put your head
on the pillow, You have erased it. Whatever you
have to learn, you learn and you erase it. If you don’t erase,
what happens? You go on revisiting, so you
go on creating fear, anger, etc. Notice, the moment you revisit…
suppose the question is of insecurity. ‘What’s going to happen to me?’ The more you revisit, the
more you are creating fear, More you are creating anger, and
when all this comes together, You take the path of suppression,
and you become weaker and weaker. Spiritual immaturity would be,
‘Why did he behave like this with me?’ Spiritual maturity would be,
‘When he behaves like this with me,’ ‘How should I respond?’ Now just check,
where do you stand? Every time, do you feel, ‘Why is he
behaving like this with me?’ If he does this… Lord Mahavira only thought, ‘What should
I do if that snake bites me?’ ‘Why did the snake do this?’ This
thought did not cross His mind, That’s why He became Bhagwan. We get stuck there, ‘How dare that
person does that?’ Why? There is freedom of
speech and expression. So, what others think of you
is not your business. Right or wrong?
(Yes) One thing, you would not
agree with me, if I say, What is true happiness? In one of my discourses, I had explained
that true happiness is FOC. Free of cost. That happiness which is not
free of cost is not happiness. You are understanding? All of you take out your
phones and see. Now, think of how much it cost you. Probably ranging from
5,000 to 40,000 rupees? You paid for this?
That means this is not happiness. True happiness is FOC.
It’s free of cost. By meditating or
by positivity of your thoughts, You can make yourself happy. The more expensive your happiness,
it is not true happiness; It only makes you forget
your sorrow. Just as by consuming alcohol we
don’t solve our sorrow; It just makes us forget our
sorrow. Similarly, all this is just an attempt
to forget sorrow. This is not happiness. You people have become
so weak; If one desire is not fulfilled,
you have suicidal thoughts. Whereas even in 14 years of exile, Rama, Sita or Lakshman
never had suicidal thoughts even for a day. This is strength. That’s why temples
are built in their honour. Does anyone have a Mercedes?
I am not asking you but… Does anyone have a Mercedes?
Okay. Let’s say you own a Mercedes. Your friend is very angry. He doesn’t even
know what he is thinking, speaking, doing. And if he says, “Akash, please
give me your Mercedes.” Would you give it to
him at that time? You will say, “First, calm down.
Because in this mood,” “You may or may not die but you
will surely destroy my car.” Right? At least when he is in anger,
you wouldn’t give it. So when you are in that anger,
when the person is in anger, You would not give your car keys,
because he will bang it. And when you are in the state of anger,
you give yourself a chance to make decisions. An accident will definitely take place. You should say, “I will not decide
right now. Let me calm down first.” “Afterwards.”
You got it? Nowadays most public places have a
‘No smoking zone’. Similarly, in your house, have a
‘No anger zone’, at least for 2 hours. Let’s say, from 8 p.m. to 10 p.m.,
this room is ‘No anger zone’. So, if you want to get angry,
when can you do it? The next day. But the next day you won’t feel angry.
Because it was just a fit of emotion. If you can win anger for one second,
then you have won over it. You understand? Suppose there is a factory.
Raw material comes in, It gets processed and
finished goods come out. If the finished good is
unhappiness, misery, sorrow, What is the raw material? There is a factory. Raw material arrives,
something happens, finished goods come out. In the same way, as in the example,
what comes out is sorrow, Then, what is the raw material
for sorrow? So, generic name?
Impure feelings. What are these impurities? They are negative
emotions coming from your negative thoughts. So you can’t change the language
and say the same thing. Right? So negative emotions coming out from
your negative thoughts. So in short – thoughts. We are talking of the negative
because it is sorrow. If you cancel the 2 negatives, and
emotions come from your thoughts. Negative thoughts are the raw material,
and sorrow is the finished product. Do you agree?
You are liars. You agree here, but when you go out,
if you become sad for any reason, You will blame?
Situations. ‘Because my parents are not agreeing,
I am sad.’ Will you not say that? But just now you said, what is the
cause of your sorrow – your thoughts. Those thoughts could be of
ego, expectations, whatever. It could be different
in different incidents. So over here you agreed to it. That the raw material for the finished
goods of sorrow is thoughts. But as soon as you
leave the satsang, What do you say? You blame situations, things, people
or circumstances. Right or wrong? See, that means it has not
gone in your belief. Because you have been
hearing again and again, ‘You are responsible for your sorrow,
you are your own enemy.’ ‘You are your own friend.’
Therefore, you are just echoing. But, if it was from your belief, even after
leaving, you would not blame anybody. I am the sole cause of my sorrow. “No Bapa, if the situation is bad, the
state of mind also becomes bad or not?” If the situation, let’s say, if someone’s
financial situation is bad, Then the poor fellow has sleepless nights,
is filled with worry and is tense. Is it possible or not? So, when the situation is bad,
then the state of mind is bad. If the situation is good,
then the state of mind is good. The reason for the good or bad state
of mind is the good or bad situation. This is your wrong belief,
this is your ignorance. And that is why you need
to do satsang. One phone call can change the
whole happiness into misery. One incident can change,
one talk can change. Can it happen or not? Then how can you say
situations make you happy? It is the thought which
is making you happy. You understand? Understand one thing. If there is
a bad situation and a bad state of mind, That is understandable. But if there is a good situation
and you have a bad state of mind, Does this happen at times or not? Suppose, you are with your friend, and
I tell you to come with me to Mansarovar. So, he is so happy,
that fellow is in the valley, ‘We both dance in the same way, yet
he gets invited to Mansarovar.’ One is chosen for Mansarovar,
and the other is very sad. Right? Okay. It’s right. He is in a good situation,
so he is in a good state of mind, It is common sense.
It has not happened to me. I am in a bad situation so, obviously,
I will be in a bad state of mind. This is your ‘obvious’. And I tell him, “You don’t worry,
I am going for a retreat with my family,” I am giving an example,
there is nothing like that. “I’m going on a cruise and we are
only 50 people and you can come,” “You can stay in my room also,
you can do personal seva.” Now tell me, how much happiness
Mansarovar will give him? But Mansarovar is not cancelled. So, the
situation has not changed from good to bad. So situation is yet? (Good)
But the state of mind is? (Bad) Then how can you say situations
are responsible? Situations and state of
mind are independent things. Your thoughts intervene and
change your state of mind. You got it!